Are you currently locked in a dispute with your husband or wife? Here’s a guaranteed way to lose the argument. First, assemble all the facts and logic that show that you are right and your spouse is wrong. Next, present your spouse with your brilliantly outlined facts and logic. If your initial arguments don’t work,
Archives for July 2016
The Anger Habit
I’ve just finished reading, The Anger Habit by Carl Semmelroth, Ph.D. The author explodes a long-held myth about this troubling emotion. Many of us believe that we must “express” our anger or “let it out,” or else the anger will “build up” and we’ll “explode.” Almost everyone believes this myth, including most therapists. But it
Take a Break from Criticism
Lies My Stomach Tells Me
Want vs. Being Willing
It has often been said that to change your habits, you must really want to change. To quit smoking, you must want to quit. To lose weight, you must really want to follow your diet, etc. However, I strongly disagree with that belief. I have worked with many clients who have made significant changes that
Time Management: Part III Plan, plan, plan!
Q: What are the three most important elements of time management? A: 1. Planning 2. Planning 3. Planning. This is such a simple truth that I’m almost embarrassed to mention it. Nevertheless, it is often the one thing people fail to do. I have a very simple planning system. I’m not saying that it’s the
Time Management: Part II Urgent vs. Important
Do you feel very busy but not very productive? If so, you may be making the all-to-common mistake of confusing what’s “urgent” with what’s “important.” Productivity guru Stephen Covey is my guide in making this distinction. “Urgent” items are those that grab our immediate attention and seem to require a fairly quick response. Before the